FOR WOMEN ONLY :)

I'm sorry for all the posts about hysterectomies and surgeries and cancer, but I guess you write what you live and this is what I'm living at the moment.  As of today, I am no longer searching google for ailments. (at least until the next ailment comes along)  I have decided it's not worth the aggravation.   The one thing about the Internet is you can publish anything you want and people can read it as gospel.  (Any idiot can make a blog....I'm proof) 

Everyone has opinions, I really try hard not to put anyone down for their opinions.  I have my opinions that may not be worth anything, but they are still mine.  I came across a site on the web that appears to be written by a group concerning hysterectomies.  I believe the acronym is HERS  Hysterectomy Educational Resources and Services. (sounds pretty official doesn't it?)  Whatever it is, they hate hysterectomies and the doctors who give them.  They refer to what we used to call a total hysterectomy (uterus, Ovaries and Fallopian tubes) as castration.  I find this very annoying, wrong and downright demeaning.  A group of women  are trying to hurt other women is just wrong.  They talk in absolutes as though there is no middle ground.  Life is nothing but middle ground.  Very few things are totally black or totally white. 

If you go to their web site, I see a lot of money making opportunities.  They sell Medical Journal articles for $4 per article.  HELLLLLOOOOOOO, you can google anything you want, you do not need to pay for it.   There appears to be a few ways these people make money.  I'm not saying they are all wrong.  I don't believe anyone should have surgery for no reason.  Probably the one thing people don't realize is that 20 years ago, I had a doctor that told me I needed a hysterectomy.  Due to my amazing ability to read his mind and also know my own body, I decided he was just trying to buy a new house or dream car. He was also very nasty with me when at the age of 30 I told him I would wait.  I never went back to him.    I really didn't want to be part of it.  My problem didn't cause me much discomfort and didn't interfere with life.  I waited....Was the wait worth it?  I'm not sure.  Like a lot of other people though, I googled and researched and came across the same types of people who act like you are less of a woman because you are missing a few parts.  It scared me that my quality of life would go down hill.  Things can always be worse right? They tend to make it sound like you are a no longer a functioning part of society, a blubbering idiot.  This really really scared me because I'm not much on the ball anyway. 

On the flip side of this, you can also hear about how people (probably most people) go on to live perfectly normal happy lives.  I probably would have been better off had I listened to the first Dr although my opinion of him remains the same.  I wouldn't be going through this now, but I'm kind of stubborn and say I did what my heart told me to do.   Everything is going to work out and I for sure don't need other women acting like I'm a eunuch and need to be shipped away to a far away land for lepers and incomplete people.(they refer to women who have had hysters as not being INTACT)   Below is a list of reason HERS gave not to have the surgery:

• heart disease
• loss of sexual desire, arousal, sensation (WRONG and NO COMMENT)
• weight gain (too late)
• osteoporosis (comes with old age, take calcium)
• bone, joint and muscle pain and immobility (old age)
• painful intercourse, vaginal damage (NO COMMENT)
• displacement of bladder, bowel, and other pelvic organs (I HAD PROLAPSE PRIOR)
• urinary tract infections, frequency, incontinence (LEAKED URINE EARLIER DUE TO HUGE UTERUS AND PROLAPSE)
• chronic constipation and digestive disorders (ALREADY HAVE)
• debilitating fatigue
• loss of stamina (NONE TO LOSE)
• altered body odor (WHATEVER!!!)
• loss of short-term memory (ALREADY HAPPENING)
• blunting of emotions, personality changes, despondency, irritability, anger, reclusiveness and suicidal thinking (HAVE ALL THESE EXCEPT FOR SUICIDAL THINKING.  Mine is more about how to off others not myself JUST KIDDING, THAT WAS A JOKE)

 Here is a couple quotes from the HERS blog: 

"There is no age or time when the uterus is no longer needed. Desecrating the uterus, whether it is intact or amputated, desecrates the woman, and is offensive and intolerable."

"Castration causes memory loss and impaired cognitive function."  PS:  SO DOES MENOPAUSE!!!!

Well, so there you have it, I'm doomed......Not only am I a Eunuch, I'm going to be a blubbering idiot also.

I don't know you guys, but I think the key is to find a Doctor you trust and rely on him/her and your own instincts.  There is no sure thing, but it is equally just as dangerous to listen to people who make things sound so gruesome and terrifying as though it's out of a horror movie.  I think it's sad that this group, whoever they are, believe that a uterus and lady parts define them.  I'm much more than that.   If I'm wrong, I will invite you all over to watch me eat this particular blog entry.   I can tell you I feel much better since my surgery.  I can now actually walk without my back aching.(which before this was blamed on my big boobs)   I no longer feel like I'm a step away from depends.   So far my quality of life has improved.  I think this organization is very irresponsible in the way they handle the subject.  The more I read the madder I get so I'm washing my hands of this whole mess!!  Please feel free to go to their blog and let me know what you think. I will leave you to search for it, because I've done enough advertising for them.   Just because I find it obscene, degrading and a little overboard doesn't mean everyone will and that's OK.